How To Build A Self-Care Toolkit That Actually Works

In a world that glamorizes hustling, rest and self-care can feel like a luxury instead of a necessity. However, it is essential to maintaining our well-being. If you're feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or burnt out, then it is time to practice some self-care and building a self-care toolkit will ultimately aid you.

Hammock in a beach setting. Practicing self-care can mean spending time in nature as a way to reconnect with yourself.

What is a Self-Care Toolkit?

• A self-care toolkit is a collection of practices and items that can be used to help you care for your mental, physical and emotional well-being. It's meant to help you reset by having this go-to resource at your disposal when needed.

Have an Understanding of What Self-Care Means to You

• Self-care can mean different things to different people. There is no one size fits all solution. For some, it can mean taking a bubble bath or walking in nature. For others, it can mean setting boundaries or asking for help. Here are important questions to ask yourself: What makes me feel recharged? What drains my energy? What do I tend to neglect when stressed? Your answers should help you to tailor your toolkit to your needs.

Another way to practice self-care is by soaking in the tub with your favorite book.

A Good Self-Care Toolkit Needs to Cover the Core Areas of Well-being

Below is a breakdown of a self-care toolkit that will support every part of you.

• Mental Self-Care

  • Journaling

  • Reading

  • Mindfulness or meditation apps (Calm or Headspace, for example)

• Emotional Self-Care

  • Talking to a friend or therapist

  • Practicing gratitude

  • Writing affirmation cards

• Physical Self-Care

  • A sleep schedule

  • Movement you enjoy (walking, dancing, biking, yoga, etc.)

  • Water- hydration is so important!

  • Nutritious snacks

• Social Self-Care

  • Saying "no" without guilt

  • Setting healthy boundaries

  • Reaching out to a friend

  • Planning regular catch-ups

Aromatherapy is a powerful tool that can be used, with a variety of benefits, including stress relief.

Gather Your Tools (Physical and Digital)

• Create a space- a literal box, a drawer, a journal or a digital folder- where you'll be able to keep your self-care essentials. Here are ideas for your toolkit: a journal and pen, a list of people you can call or text, your favorite cozy blanket, a music playlist, a candle or calming scents, reminders for daily routines.

Make It Accessible

• Your toolkit should be easy to reach for whenever you may need it. Keep your journal or whatever book you might be reading on your nightstand. Add self-care reminders to your phone.

Check-in and Update Regularly

• What has worked for you in the past may not work now and that's okay. As humans, we are constantly changing and evolving. Make time to review and refresh your toolkit if, or when, needed. Ask yourself these questions: What's helping me right now? What feels like a chore? What new tools could I try?

Final Thoughts

• Building a self-care toolkit is meant to support you when you need it the most. It's meant to uplift you, recharge you when life gets messy. Something to keep in mind- be kind to yourself. Remember to take care of yourself everyday and not just when you're at your breaking point.